A Laughing Baby!
This was a voice I heard from within for the first time when I got to know ‘I’m pregnant’. Hey friends, PCOD (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) is not a reason to lower your spirits to get pregnant. It is not a disease to make you victimized by social stigma and crave to become a mother.
PCOD is a challenge which you can overcome with calm, courage, and cheer. It is a common hormonal disorder among women of reproductive age. This is more a lifestyle problem than some disorder in your body.
I’ve spent two years of my life in overcoming all its symptoms. I had to do a lots to fight depression, balance my diet, gather courage and light up hope after each passing cycle. Moreover, many wagging tongues were determined to push me into ‘never-ending depression’.
“Oh! when are you going to crack the good news? We are waiting.”
“You’ve spent six years of your married life. High time! You should have had atleast one child by now.”
“I’m sure she might be having some problem.”
And the list of these melancholic compliments went on and on. Phew! It was a difficult time, my friends. Gradually, it became harder for me to see a pregnant lady or hear some couple cracking their ‘good news’. It made me more conscious of myself. Worst of all, my peers’ words struck into my head like swords.
Yes, I understand, you all might be undergoing similar experience. But life never ends with one difficult situation. We all have a natural tendency to fend for ourselves, to find fresh new meaning in our lives again. After all, there is always a ray of hope even in the darkest of hours.
PCOD can be corrected with right medications and majorly with effective food therapy. Instead of relying completely on pills, keep your spirits high, pop up fruits, homemade food and give your body and mind time to heal.
Don’t get upset with sharp-tongued chatterboxes. They’ll never understand you, they don’t even belong to you. They are just concerned if they can make some juicy conversation on your plight. It is more important to maintain your calm and remain cheerful throughout. That’s a key to success. Being happy also helps your brain release happy hormones in your body. It provides a conducive environment to your body for pregnancy.
Go for a little shopping, get glossy lipsticks, attractive nail paints, stunning dresses. Be well-dressed, look healthy and good all the time. It gives a feel-good factor to you as well as to your partner.
Eat healthy, stay happy! Good food always give a feel-good factor. Eating green vegetables, fruits, lots of salad, 1 or 2 glasses of milk, homemade fruit juices, regular meals prepares your body for pregnancy. Less or no intake of fast food like pizzas, burgers, coke, etc. helps in detoxification. Also, say ‘NO’ to alcohol and smoking to boost fertility in you.
Change your lifestyle. Sitting for 8 to 9 hours in centrally air-conditioned office affects the health too. Now, you might wonder ‘I can’t leave the job and sit at home’. Hey, I don’t tell you to do this. But you can always opt for some sports like swimming, jogging, brisk walking, etc. early in the morning. And go for some yoga exercises or mild walking in the evening too. Staying in touch with nature and keeping yourself sporty or active helps you heal your body and mind.
Say ‘NO’ to stress. It doesn’t come easy when you are trying hard to become a parent. Each passing cycle not only leaves you in depression but also frustrates your partner too. And, it’s also not easy to avoid stress when doctors, family, friends tell you not to bother.
But the most difficult problems in life are never solved with the ‘stress’ factor. They are solved with a lot of patience, courage and cheer. Here you need to change your attitude because depression and anxiety will never get you anything. Stay calm and allow yourself to flow with time!
God always knows better than you when to gift you a baby- the love and pride of your life.
Wish you all the best!
As published in ‘Mother’s World’ popular magazine in India.